Take your time

There's no right or wrong way to grieve, and there's no timeline you need to follow. These resources are here whenever you're ready—whether that's today, next month, or next year.

Bereavement Support

Organisations that offer free support, counselling, and guidance

Cruse Bereavement Support

Free support, advice and information to anyone who has been bereaved. They offer one-to-one support, group sessions, and a helpline.

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Helpline: 0808 808 1677

Mind

Mental health charity offering information, advice and support. Their resources on coping with grief can help you understand what you're experiencing.

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Infoline: 0300 123 3393

Samaritans

24-hour emotional support for anyone struggling to cope. You don't have to be suicidal to call – they're there to listen whenever you need someone.

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Free 24/7: 116 123

Child Bereavement UK

Support for families when a child dies, and for children and young people when someone important to them dies. Offers a helpline and online resources.

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Helpline: 0800 02 888 40

What to Expect

Grief is different for everyone, but these experiences are common

1

Shock & Numbness

Feeling disconnected or like you're on autopilot is normal, especially in the early days. Your mind is protecting you.

2

Waves of Emotion

Grief comes in waves—sometimes triggered, sometimes out of nowhere. Sadness, anger, guilt, and even relief are all normal.

3

Physical Symptoms

Grief affects the body too. Fatigue, trouble sleeping, loss of appetite, or physical aches are all common responses.

4

Good Days & Bad Days

Healing isn't linear. Having a good day doesn't mean you're "over it"—and bad days don't mean you're not healing.

5

Triggers & Anniversaries

Birthdays, holidays, songs, or places can bring grief flooding back. This is normal and often softens with time.

6

Finding a New Normal

Grief changes us. Over time, you'll find ways to carry your loss while still living your life fully.

Memorial Planning Checklist

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Information Gathering

  • Locate the Deed of Grant / Exclusive Right of Burial
  • Find the grave number and cemetery name
  • Check cemetery regulations (kerb sets allowed? Size limits?)
  • Confirm who is the registered grave owner

Design Decisions

  • Choose memorial type (headstone, kerb set, cremation)
  • Select stone colour and finish
  • Draft inscription wording
  • Consider additional features (photo plaque, vase, book design)

Next Steps

  • Request quotes from memorial masons
  • Review and approve design proof
  • Pay deposit and permit fee
  • Wait for permit approval (typically 4-12 weeks)

Helpful Reading

Books and resources recommended by others who have experienced loss

"It's OK That You're Not OK"

by Megan Devine. A compassionate guide that validates the reality of grief without trying to fix it.

Find at your local library

"H is for Hawk"

by Helen Macdonald. A beautiful memoir about grief, nature, and finding unexpected paths through loss.

Find at your local library

"When Breath Becomes Air"

by Paul Kalanithi. A neurosurgeon's reflections on life, death, and what makes life worth living.

Find at your local library

We're here for you

When you're ready to think about a memorial, we'll guide you through every step—no pressure, no rush. Just honest support from people who understand.

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